Start with a less expensive model, Fleming advises beginners. Sometimes trying a more affordable model gives you a sense of what a sensation is like and whether you like it. Of course, if you already know what feeling you like and you need a recommendation for the best sex toy that aligns with that, weve got you too.

Whip out that new toy when youre actually turned on (and not as a way to turn yourself on). Think of it as foreplay, Fleming says. If you want to build up reception to a new toy, start off when youre already highly aroused. The research is clear that people tend to be more open and receptive when already aroused.

And if you dont like the sensation of a new toy the very first time you use it, dont give up on it just yet. The first time we try anything, were doing what we call spectatoring, which is observing ourselves, how its going, what we thought, what our partner thought. Were in our heads and not so much in the experience, says Fleming. So try, try again.

Below, find our experts top picks for masturbation sleeves, prostate massagers, cock rings, butt plugs, dildos, and more, from best-selling retailers and brands such as Lovehoney, We-Vibe, Lelo, Hot Octopuss, and Tenga. Just dont forget to throw good lube in your cart and clean up your toys after.

Masturbation sleeves (also known as strokers or penis sleeves) are cylindrical sleeves or canal-shaped sex toys that envelop the penis and are either open-ended or closed. These sleeves work well for solo stimulation, as theyre like giving yourself a hand job, or your partner can stimulate you with it, Frye-Nekrasova says.

These various strokers can be textured on the inside (like the Tenga Egg, an egg-shaped disposable masturbation sleeve), while others (such as the Fleshlight Pink Lady) mimic human anatomy in look and feel (and are usually closed-ended). Because of the suction or vibration, theres an arousing, pleasurable sensation, Fleming says. Most men will get erect and it will bring them to orgasm.

Often made of soft silicone, the sleeves come in both non-vibrating and vibrating models. The vibrating models are known as power strokers or penis stimulators, as theyre powered by a motor that adds a stroking motion. To really explore a different stimulation thats not just digital, manual stimulation, go for a power stroker, Frye-Nekrasova says. For the majority of your life with a penis, youve likely stimulated yourself only by hand, so introducing a new form of stimulation by way of a power stroker is going to do things for you that you probably never expected.

Ella Paradis

The Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo masturbation sleeve has an adjustable design that fits to any girth, and its open design makes it possible to wear during penetrative sex as well. Sex educator Cassandra Corrado told SELF that this is a nice option for men who have difficulties with erections because you can use it without getting hard. Instead of a motor, the remote-controlled Pulse Duo uses oscillation to create an intense sensation for the wearer, she explains.

Arcwave

Frye-Nekrasova highly recommends the ArcWave Ion, a unique male masturbator that focuses on stimulating the frenulum (the highly sensitive vein on the underside of the penis shaft) with pulsating airwaves. This offers a completely new world of stimulation that many male sex toy users are not used to because theres no other product like it, she says.

Lovehoney

For a vibrating masturbation sleeve, Frye-Nekrasova likes the Blowmotion, which warms and mimics the feel of engaging in penetration with a human partner or receiving a blow job.

Looking to give anal sex toys a try? Prostate massagers are one way to get started. These toys are shaped and designed to target the prostate gland, which is a walnut-size gland behind the penis, inside the pelvis, and between the bladder and rectum. Similar to the female G-spot, this gland is known as the P-spot, and stimulating it can feel amazing. For those who have never explored the prostate, hand stimulation can be intimidating, Frye-Nekrasova says, which is why a sex toy is helpful: Using a toy allows for more exploration without having to step out of your comfort zone too much, and I will die on the hill of encouraging everyone with a prostate to stimulate it.

Lelo

Complete with remote control and vibrating motors in its tip and base, the Lelo Hugo is a smooth, medium-size prostate massager that leads to large-size orgasms. Its a favorite of Adina Mahalli, MSW, relationship expert, and womens health specialist at Maple Holistics, who previously noted to SELF that the Hugo makes an excellent toy for women to try too.

Babeland

Aneros is a brand whose entire line is designed specifically for not only providing prostate pleasure but with prostate health in mind, Lisa Finn, sex educator and brand manager for Babeland, told SELF. The sleekly contoured, self-pivoting design of the Trident prostate massager allows for blissful stimulation of both the prostate and perineum (which lies between the anus and genitals for men), and its flared base and P-tab stops provide external sensations and ensure the toy doesnt move around. You can comfortably massage and stimulate this hot spot internally and externally at onceup and down or in and out, and in any position, Finn says.

Lovehoney

The We-Vibe Vector is a Bluetooth-enabled, app-controlled prostate massager, that can be controlled from a phone (even remotely). Fleming previously told SELF that the Vector works both for masturbation and partnered play, and she appreciates its 10 whisper-quiet, powerful vibration settings.

Another safe and satisfying way to dip your, er, toe in the anal sex pool? Butt plugs are great for starting out in anal stimulation so that you can get used to the feeling of something inserted anally, Frye-Nekrasova says, advising that newbies start small before working their way up to larger anal toys like dildos. Butt plugs come in a range of sizes, textures, and materials. Some vibrate, others are made of heavy metal that provides lots of pressure, while others mimic the sensation of rimming.

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The 15 Best Sex Toys for Men, According to Experts - SELF

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